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遊戲中帶孩子認識神–(1)神創造的世界(第五&六天)

神創造天地的第五天
1:20-23 神說、水要多多滋生有生命的物.要有雀鳥飛在地面以上、天空之中。神就造出大魚、和水中所滋生各樣有生命的動物、各從其類.又造出各樣飛鳥、各從其類.神看着是好的。神就賜福給這一切、說、滋生繁多、充滿海中的水.雀鳥也要多生在地上。有晚上、有早晨、是第五日。

神創造天地的第六天
1:24 神說、地要生出活物來、各從其類.牲畜、昆蟲、野獸、各從其類.事就這樣成了。於是 神造出野獸、各從其類.牲畜、各從其類.地上一切昆蟲、各從其類. 神看着是好的。神說、我們要照着我們的形像、按着我們的樣式造、使他們管理海裏的魚、空中的鳥、地上的牲畜、和全地、並地上所爬的一切昆蟲。神就照着自己的形像造人、乃是照着他的形像造男造女。神就賜福給他們、又對他們說、要生養眾多、遍滿地面、治理這地.也要管理海裏的魚、空中的鳥.和地上各樣行動的活物。 神說、看哪、我將遍地上一切結種子的菜蔬、和一切樹上所結有核的果子、全賜給你們作食物。至於地上的走獸、和空中的飛鳥、並各樣爬在地上有生命的物、我將青草賜給他們作食物.事就這樣成了。神看着一切所造的都甚好.有晚上、有早晨、是第六日。

認識”鳥” “魚” “動物”
提供一些可以帶孩子去看動物的地方(Lafayette, Indiana 地區)
-Walmart的寵物區
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Lilly Nature Center 有一區可以觀鳥、聽鳥叫聲
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Columbian Park Zoo
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這是夏天時,小白媽最喜歡帶恩恩出遊的地方。雖然小,但是對小小孩來說,足夠滿足他們的好奇心。

跟動物有關的活動蠻多的,而且小朋友大多很能被動物吸引:
-帶著孩子模仿動物的叫聲和動作
-放動物的玩具在袋子裡讓孩子抽,抽到的說出名字、學叫聲和動作
-看挪亞方舟的圖片,讓孩子認認有哪些動物,並告訴孩子挪亞方舟的故事
-動物的 sensory box: 將動物的小玩具和小工具放在裝有米、沙子or豆子的箱子裡,讓小朋友操作工具,發揮想像力,自己玩,小孩似乎都很愛玩沙、米或是豆豆類的東西,缺點是會灑得到處都是,建議可以移到室外。
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遊戲中帶孩子認識神–(1)神創造的世界(第四天)

神創造天地的第四天
1:14-19 神說、天上要有光體、可以分晝夜、作記號、定節令、日子、年歲.並要發光在天空、普照在地上.事就這樣成了。於是 神造了兩個大光、大的管晝、小的管夜.又造眾星。就把這些光擺列在天空、普照在地上、管理晝夜、分別明暗.神看着是好的.有晚上、有早晨、是第四日。

認識”太陽、月亮、星星”
-最好的方式就是出門的時候,帶著孩子觀察、跟孩子描述它們的樣子、什麼時候可以看到它們、描述顏色、形狀,etc.
-讓孩子畫太陽、月亮、星星的樣子,形容它們的形狀、顏色
-恩恩最喜歡的活動:撕下星星貼紙,然後貼在紙上。孩子貼完之後,帶著他一起數數看有多少星星。把滿是星星的作品送給壽星爸爸!
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-教孩子說:神創太陽、月亮、星星!

自從教了恩恩太陽、月亮、星星之後,這個孩子迷上看天空找它們 @.@

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江秀琴牧師”如何教養孩童”–心得筆記

我們家原不是基督教家庭,沒有上一代按神的標準教小孩的榜樣,
所以媽媽特別跟我分享了江秀琴牧師”如何教養孩童”的錄音,
一起學習怎麼按聖經的原則教小孩,
總共有10次錄音,建議全部聽完之後,再開始實行,
因為前面是從”管教”開始說,著重在孩子犯錯的時候的對策,
後面江牧師會解釋更多愛孩子的方法,
有了完整的概念,更能實踐在愛中的管教。

小白媽簡略版的心得筆記,跟大家分享:

讓孩子感受到愛的方式:
– 常常用正面的話語,鼓勵孩子朝向正面的方向,孩子還沒有的德性,就要一直鼓勵
– 稱讚孩子擁有的,特別是屬神的品格
– 花心思去了解孩子,按他的本相接納他
– 在孩子不任性的狀況下,盡量讓孩子快樂
– 奉主的名,常常祝福孩子
民6:24-26,申28:3-6,創12:2-3,詩篇20:1-5,羅15:5-6,13:33,林後13:11,14,加6:18,帖後3:16,18,希13:20,21,彼後1:2-4

父母過敬虔的生活就是愛孩子
– 家庭禮拜,唸聖經、唱詩歌,讓家庭禮拜成為最快樂的時間
– 讓孩子真實遇見主,不要只是知識的傳遞而是生命的傳遞
– 不要只是跟孩子玩,而是要用神的話建造孩子,生命的傳遞別人不能給
– 給孩子讀宣教士的傳記,讓他們有真實的榜樣可以學習
– 家裡有很多神的話

當孩子做錯時的管教步驟
– 可以鼓勵的先用鼓勵,孩子任性、無理取鬧、做錯事、發脾氣時才是用管教
– 目的:重點不是打,而是樹立父母的威嚴,讓孩子學習順服
– 有怒氣的時候,先去禱告讚美,有理性的時候,再打,不要傷到孩子
– 管教5步驟:
1.用孩子懂的話,解釋為何不可以做甚麼,加上後果是什麼(沒有警告過的,不能打)
有沒有告訴你不可以_______? (用問答的方式,讓孩子印象深刻)
2.為甚麼不聽話? 說過不聽話要怎麼樣?要打對不對?
3.媽媽說到一定要做到
4.讓孩子跟耶穌認錯:對不起,我沒有聽媽媽的話,求主赦免我,我以後不要再…
跟媽媽認錯: 對不起,我沒有聽話,
5.孩子認錯後,父母說:耶穌原諒你,爸媽也原諒你

小白媽實行之後的心得–
親近神、被神的話充滿真的很重要!
自己有”料”的時候,神的愛才能從口中常常流出,
當孩子不聽話時,神的”愛是恆久忍耐”才能做得出來,
另外,”常常鼓勵”真的很有效!
孩子本來就還不懂事,給個指令,也需要反應的時間,
如果常用罵的,孩子容易喪氣,大人小孩心情都不好,
真的需要杖打管教孩子的時候,一定要檢視自己不是在生氣的狀況下打。
(這個說起來容易,做起來難 XD )
一起加油! ^^

**箴言14:26敬 畏 耶 和 華 的 、 大 有 倚 靠 . 他 的 兒 女 、 也 有 避 難 所 **

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新手媽媽8-?個月的第一關: Desipline

照顧新生寶寶的時候,都是在滿足寶寶的生理需求,

那時就在期待,哪一天可以把學到聖經的教養原則用上,

等到這一天,發現照顧寶寶生理的需求還比較簡單,

寶寶會爬之後,加上越來越有自己的主見,

於是爸媽和小孩之間的”權力鬥爭”就開始了,

常常要告訴Luke不可以摸電線、不可以把髒東西放嘴裡、不可以到危險的地方,etc.

當然這是寶寶探索世界的方式,要給他足夠的自由才行,

家裡也需要基本的Childproofing,

照書養媽媽在這裡整理一下心得,

不過剛開始試驗,以後有更多的心得再加上來。

首先,聖經裡有明確教導兒女應當順服父母:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.”Honor your father and mother”–which is the first commandment with a promise–“that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.” (Ephesians 6:1-3)

所以管教兒女是神給父母的責任,順服父母是兒女的責任,在孩子這麼小的階段,順服是第一個要學習的功課,父母應當在一開始施行較多的管教,隨著年齡增長,管教會越來越少,教導要越來越多。

父母可以注意的原則:

1. 注重”心”的改變而不只是”行為”的改變

孩子的行為是他們內心景況的表現,所以父母的目標應該是讓孩子知道對錯,挪去孩子本性中的愚頑,以智慧取代之。(On becoming babywise 2)  可以多跟寶寶解釋道理,不要覺得寶寶小聽不懂,就不說或是亂說,好好的解釋,不但幫助寶寶的語言發展,也讓他開始練習聽話和溝通。

2. 給小孩指示或教導時,要目光接觸,幫助孩子專注、聽從。

3. 一旦說出要求,就一定期待孩子要順從,要不然就不要說,並且要前後一致、貫徹到底。

4. 教導:

1) 指示方式的教導: 告訴孩子做甚麼,當孩子有正確的回應,給予讚美”好乖,你會聽媽媽的話”。

2) 限制方式的教導: 告訴孩子不可以做什麼,當孩子不理或是反抗的時候,可施行管教 (譴責、失去權力、打手心、time out)

新手媽媽剛剛開始練習discipline寶寶,知道容易,做到難,請大家指教+代禱 🙂

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Bibilical Parenting Lesson 5

Lesson 5- The Place of Discipline

Proverbs 13:24 ” He who spares his rod hates his son, but he who loves him disciplines him diligently.”  James 1:20 “For the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God”  Biblical forms of discipline are not abusive, but they are very loving and helpful and can help mold a person’s character for life.

I. Avoid wrong ideas about discipline

A. Some parents think that correction alone is enough.

B. Thinking that because many who were disciplined firmly, turned out badly: because they may discipline in uncontrolled anger; they discipline because their children bother them; some discipline children without praising them; some discipline without teaching.

C. Some parents believe  that discipline hinders a child’s creativity and potential.

D. Some parents believe that discipline will wrap a child’s personality.

 

II. Develop the right attitude about discipline

A. Our Lord corrects those He loves for their benefit.

B. God’s way is best!

C. View biblical discipline as having the goal of correction, not punishment. Punishment is looking back, correction is looking to the future.

D. Give expectations ahead of time and learn to communicate with the child.

 

III. Include the necessary ingredients for effective disciplines

A. A parent needs to have some convictions: children are a gift from God; parents will someday give an account for their parenting; God will give parents wisdom and guidance through His sufficient Word; It is loving to give limits.

B. A parents needs to give careful attention to rules that are used for correction and guidance: rules should be reasonable, definable, enforceable.

C. Parents need to establish appropriate rewards and corrections as a part of the discipline process.

D. Parents must follow through in love as correction is carried out: teach the child to ask forgiveness; reassure the child of your love for him and your commitment to help the child be pleasing to God; give them help and assistance; parent’s actions speak louder than words!

 

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34th week- Biblical Parenting Lesson 4

We finished our biblical parenting class at Faith Baptist Church.  I feel it is just a start. So many biblical parenting skills still need to be learned.  Here I summarized what we learned from our 4th, 5th, and last lesson.

Lesson 4- Teaching Your Children

Ephesians 6:4- fathers, do not provoke your children to anger; but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.  “Instruction” means “putting into the mind” or “building inner conversation.”  We need to find a balance of discipline and teaching if a child is to grow up to be like Jesus Christ.  With a child’s age increases, discipline should gradually decrease and teaching should increase.

How to teach your children?

  • By asking good questions and helping a child to sharpen their answers.
  • By using life situations as teaching opportunities
  • By living a good example. Parents should resent a unified front. There should not be a “good cop” and a “bad cop”.
  • By formally conducting a family “worship time”.

What is a parent to teach?

  • How to be saved and how to grow as a christian
  • Foundational truths: there is a God, the Word of God is the standard of truth.
  • Practical truths for everyday life:
  1. Children ( 1st 5 years) : focus on being a person under authority ” Ephesians 6:1-12-Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor your father and mother.”
  2. Youth (age 6-12) :focus on building Christ like characters attentiveness, initiative, contentment, gratefulness.
  3. Teens (age 13-18) :focus on opportunity in the struggles to hunger for wisdom and correction, to see the “spirit of the law”, to make wise choices, to be strong against sexual temptation, etc.

 

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31th week- Biblical Parenting Lesson 3

Lesson 2- The Heart of a Child

Last week we were learning about the need for parents to get to a child’s heart. This week  we talked about a home that helps to shape the child’s heart.

First of all, having a God-centered home and it means loving God first.

Second, following God’s plan for the family. Children are to be brought up and to leave their father and mother. The marriage is permanent; the parenting is temporary. God is the head of the family, husband is the head of wife, and two of them have authority over their children.

Therefore, children from a God-centered home would learn the joy of serving others, honor parents as authorities, esteem others more important than selves, know that they will not always get their way, suffer consequences for sinful behaviors, fulfill household duties, protect themselves from bad influences, etc.