Lesson 5- The Place of Discipline
Proverbs 13:24 ” He who spares his rod hates his son, but he who loves him disciplines him diligently.” James 1:20 “For the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God” Biblical forms of discipline are not abusive, but they are very loving and helpful and can help mold a person’s character for life.
I. Avoid wrong ideas about discipline
A. Some parents think that correction alone is enough.
B. Thinking that because many who were disciplined firmly, turned out badly: because they may discipline in uncontrolled anger; they discipline because their children bother them; some discipline children without praising them; some discipline without teaching.
C. Some parents believe that discipline hinders a child’s creativity and potential.
D. Some parents believe that discipline will wrap a child’s personality.
II. Develop the right attitude about discipline
A. Our Lord corrects those He loves for their benefit.
B. God’s way is best!
C. View biblical discipline as having the goal of correction, not punishment. Punishment is looking back, correction is looking to the future.
D. Give expectations ahead of time and learn to communicate with the child.
III. Include the necessary ingredients for effective disciplines
A. A parent needs to have some convictions: children are a gift from God; parents will someday give an account for their parenting; God will give parents wisdom and guidance through His sufficient Word; It is loving to give limits.
B. A parents needs to give careful attention to rules that are used for correction and guidance: rules should be reasonable, definable, enforceable.
C. Parents need to establish appropriate rewards and corrections as a part of the discipline process.
D. Parents must follow through in love as correction is carried out: teach the child to ask forgiveness; reassure the child of your love for him and your commitment to help the child be pleasing to God; give them help and assistance; parent’s actions speak louder than words!