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31th week- Biblical Parenting Lesson 3

Lesson 2- The Heart of a Child

Last week we were learning about the need for parents to get to a child’s heart. This week  we talked about a home that helps to shape the child’s heart.

First of all, having a God-centered home and it means loving God first.

Second, following God’s plan for the family. Children are to be brought up and to leave their father and mother. The marriage is permanent; the parenting is temporary. God is the head of the family, husband is the head of wife, and two of them have authority over their children.

Therefore, children from a God-centered home would learn the joy of serving others, honor parents as authorities, esteem others more important than selves, know that they will not always get their way, suffer consequences for sinful behaviors, fulfill household duties, protect themselves from bad influences, etc.

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30th week- Get prepared for parenting lesson 1 &2

Now I am getting to a stage to get myself prepared for the baby in many ways. To learn about giving birth, we attended the childbirth preparation class at  IU Health Arnett Hospital. It helps us to know what to expect during the process of labor. To know how to take care of the baby’s physical needs, we will also go to the breastfeeding class and also the newborn basic class.  The nurse is very kind and experienced. We really enjoyed the class and highly recommend it!

Most importantly, we are also getting prepared spiritually.  We started the parenting class at Faith Baptist Church. It is all about a biblical approach to parenting.

First lesson was about the goal of parenting.  One of the verses stood out to me was Psalm 127:3-5. ” Behold, children are a gift of the Lord; the fruit of the womb is a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, so are the children of one’s youth. How blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them. ”  Children are like arrows so they should not stay in quiver, but are ment to hit the target. So what is the target then? Romans 8:28-29 ” And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according His purpose. For whom He foreknew, He also predestined to become conformed to the image of His Son, that He might be the firstborn.”  Thus, the target of biblical parenting is “bringing up the children to handle life in a Christ-like way.”  Being Christ-like is having characteristics of love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control (Galatians 5:22-23), and living a servant life.

The second lesson was about the heart of a child. Luke 6:45 “The good man out of the good treasure of his heart brings forth what is good; and the evil man out of the evil treasure brings forth what is evil; for his mouth speaks from what which fills his heart.” When parenting, we usually correct children’s behaviors, attitudes and words. But God says it is all about what is in his heart/mind/motive/desire. So we need to get to his mind. What is his heart issue? When we try to correct his bad behaviors or attitude, it is not only about asking them to stop doing it, but also ask him to put on Christ-like characters.  For example, when a child is being selfish, we have to ask him to share and think about others.

God’s wisdom is amazing, isn’t it? I am looking forward to learning more about it!

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28th week –7 months

時間過得真快,第三個trimester 開始囉!!

肚子有時會有卡卡的感覺,

坐著或站著同一個姿勢過一陣子要換一下,

偶而少少的一兩次braxton hicks,肚皮會緊緊的,很像吹得飽飽的氣球,

現在已經很習慣自己有個大大的肚子(老公都叫我小”腹”人 XD)

也習慣了寶寶不時在裡面動動。

最近常收到朋友說我懷孕沒有變胖,

感謝神讓寶寶乖乖地把所有的養分都吸過去囉~

不知道接下來這兩個多月會怎麼樣,

只要寶寶健健康康,我就很開心了!

 

9/22我們開始在醫院上childbirth preparation class,

很推薦懷第一胎的爸爸媽媽上喔!

讓沒有經驗的爸爸媽媽了解生產的過程,

特別是教了很多讓媽媽放鬆的技巧,

所以媽媽可以享受爸爸的按摩和支持,呵呵~每個周四去都可以被按摩一下,真不錯 🙂

在準備生產的醫院上這個課,也可以先了解到時生產的環境和設備,

可以去掉一些陌生和不安的感覺。

ok~ baby, mommy is getting ready  🙂

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PHD

讀PhD是神給我的一個特別的恩典和訓練過程,

念完Master 之後沒想過要繼續念下去,

就覺得會想唸PhD的人是Persons Having Dreams

唸了之後, 知道了很多現實面:

要念的文章 Piled Higher & Deeper,

要成為有豐富產量的writer 實在是 Pretty Hard to Do,

PhD學生於是互相苦笑對方 Permanently Head Damaged…

 

轉眼間,神透過這幾年的訓練,

讓我這個原本對學術沒有什麼特別興趣的人,

現在開始慢慢喜歡上那種在知識裡不斷思考、辯證、長進的感覺,

不知道是因為這裡的教育環境,還是因為年紀變大的關係,

覺得自己臉皮變厚了,比較敢發表自己的意見,:P

(說不定是賀爾蒙的影響,一股媽媽的氣勢,哈哈)

也發現神把我放在有更多責任的位置來讓我長大:

帶頭領一個研究計畫,

每學期教40多個undergraduate的學生,

在教會當undergraduate小組的mentor,

現在更要預備當媽媽,

神真是不斷地擴張我的境界,要我獨立、強壯、成熟,

原來PhD不只是一個學位,更是神使用的管道來 Preparing His Disciples,

雖然成長的空間還很大,雖然有時會有焦慮,

但是神說: 你要把你的重擔卸給耶和華,他必撫養你,他永不叫義人動搖。(詩篇55:22)